Mariyah turned 7 two weeks ago, and James is about to turn 10. I’ll hold all the “oh my gosh I feel old” comments (<- except for that one.) Every year I have a lot of trouble planning birthday parties for my kids. Actually I have trouble planning all events in life, not just birthday parties. Apparently I’m not really one of those planner moms. But their birthdays are particularly hard to plan for because Mariyah’s birthday is always over the winter break, and James’s birthday is right after it ends. With school being closed, its hard to get invitations out in a timely manner, and friends are often out of town. Once school resumes, January often seems all booked up.
Every year I think about having a party for each of them, but several years it hasn’t come to fruition. I was talking to a friend about the difficulties of planning a party every year and her jaw dropped, “You plan one every year? I figure mine are lucky to get 3 or 4 in their childhood.”
When I was a child, we didn’t get birthday parties every year. We had a few. I remember a tea party in kindergarten. Ice skating in third grade. My mom yelling at the coolest boy in school in 7th grade (he had used an inappropriate phrase… his exact words didn’t stick, but my moms yelling scarred me and my popularity for life).
So I’m not sure why I feel this intense need to have a party for each of my children each year. I don’t feel like I need to go crazy or anything, but I do feel like I should try to do something, and when I don’t accomplish it, I feel guilty. I think it’s because where we live, most kids have a big party every single year. Since we are in the city (ie small apartments) “destination parties” are all the rage. The great thing about destination parties is that they do all the planning for you, and there’s no clean up. The downside is they tend to be a little pricier. I usually opt for the less expensive home party, but goodness it is a lot of effort. This year I feel like its more important than usual to have a party since both of my kids are at a new school and trying to make new friends. But here we are with one birthday down, one to go, and I haven’t planned anything yet.
How do you do birthday parties in your house? Do you plan a party every single year? If so, do you plan a big bash at home? Or are you more of a destination party type of gal? Do you invite the whole class, or a few close friends? Any party planning tips to get ‘er done easily (and affordably)? Talk to me on the Monday Morning!